I am a Christian, but I really do not care what consenting adults do. I do not think homosexual relationships are all that healthy, but I’m not all that impressed with heterosexual relationships.
Honestly, if a gay couple can experience the love and companionship I have been blessed with in my marriage, I say all power to them. If people want to form extended relationships like those Heinlein imagined in The Moon Is a Harsh Mistress, I really do not care. If asked I might advise against it but I have my hands full doing a good job with my own relationship.
Expecting people who do not believe in God to conduct their lives as if they did believe in God is a doomed proposition. I am a lifelong Christian, and it’s hard for me to conduct my life as if I believe in God. Even so, though it is not my expectation, it is still my recommendation.
I believe in God, I believe that the Bible is the inerrant word of God in its original manuscripts. I do not think that the Bible is a book of suggestions for better living, but it is a love letter written to humanity inviting the estranged children of the creator to restore communion with Him. That said, it has a LOT of wonderful prescriptions for living well with your neighbor and with yourself. A person who mimics the conduct of the Savior may not gain salvation, but he’ll probably live a happy life and be well regarded by his community.
Herein lies the intersection of faith and civic life. As a believer, I have a duty to participate in our civic sphere. I have a duty to use my best judgement in good faith. I must search my heart and reflect upon what I really and truly think would be the best policies for our society. I cannot in good conscience support something that I believe is a grave mistake.
Under this rubric, if I am asked if the State ought to sanction gay marriage, what I hear is should the state sanction being gay? As a private matter, it is none of my business. As a public matter, I think it is very dangerous for the state to enact laws that conflict with God’s. When I look at the wreckage of society after society that made war on God, it seems to me that shooting the bird at the Father is profoundly unhealthy.
This really pisses off my secular minded friends, and they spend a lot of time trying to delegitimize my concerns because they are predominantly sacred rather than secular. I am maligned as being no better than a Jim Crow bigot.
I bear gay folk no malice, and would not deny a good thing to anyone. I do not think every moral precept should have the weight of law. However, there are some positions I have to take as a matter of faith and obedience. My God and I do not always agree, but I know that when we disagree I am the one who is wrong.